Grace and peace be unto you.
A Word of Encouragement…
Solomon was the wisest man to have ever lived, yet still, his pagan wives persuaded him to worship graven images, “As Solomon grew old, his wives turned his heart after other gods, and his heart was not fully devoted to the Lord his God, as the heart of David his father had been” (1 Kings 11:4). Solomon was raised by his father David, who encouraged him to obey the Lord, nonetheless his wives’ influence was so strong that he chose to follow their sinful ways rather than obey God.
Similarly, King Ahab married Jezebel, daughter of the King of the Sidonians. The Sidonians worshipped false god, hence Jezebel persuaded King Ahab to turn away from God and commit idolatry; he created the Baal religion in Israel (1 Kings 16:31-32). Evil deeds are passed down from generation to generation unless God intervenes. Athaliah, one of the daughters of King Ahab and Queen Jezebel married Jehoram. Jehoram was the son of Jehoshaphat, known as a faithful follower of God. Nonetheless, Athaliah’s influence on Jehoram was so powerful that the Bible says, “He followed the ways of the kings of Israel, as the house of Ahab had done, for he married a daughter of Ahab. He did evil in the eyes of the Lord (2 Chronicles 21:6).
Your spouse can either prematurely end your divine purpose or help you to accomplish it. The person you marry will influence your thoughts and behavior. We enter relationships with values learned from our families, and they are passed on to our partner. Likewise, we adapt values from our partner. Sometimes, the bad values are adapted and we are persuaded to do what our partner wants rather than follow God’s plan. Or we convince our partner to follow our plan rather than God’s will.
Many times, we are aware of the ungodly qualities of our partner but we talk ourselves into believing that we can change him/her. The Bible says, “Do not be mislead, bad company corrupts good character” (1 Corinthians 15:33), and If you think you are standing strong, be careful not to fall (1 Corinthians 10:12).
Choosing a God-fearing partner
The writer of Proverbs says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23). One way of guarding your heart and mind is to marry a godly person who will motivate you to love the Lord more each day. When you submit your heart and mind to Jesus, he will guide you in choosing a God-fearing partner (Proverbs 16:3).
What are the qualities of a God-fearing person?
The most important quality is to love the Lord wholeheartedly, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” (Mark 12:30). This quality is evident when someone:
1. Obeys God’s commands (John 14:15).
2. Loves justice, mercy, and walk humbly with God (Micah 6:8).
3. Practices the spiritual disciplines frequently. These are prayer, study of God’s Word, meditate on God’s Word, and worship.
Your spouse will influence the fulfillment of your purpose and determine the values that are passed on to your children and grandchildren. Choose wisely with God’s guidance.